My Haley is wonderful in lots of ways -- she can be tender and sweet with younger kids, she's smarter than she even realizes, she's extremely determined to accomplish whatever she decides to do .... I just love her.
One thing about Haley that makes me chuckle, however, is that the child just doesn't care about typical girlie things. She doesn't care at all what she wears most days, and actually prefers it when I choose her outfit for her. I usually have to force her to go clothes shopping with me, which I've had to do more of lately since I'm still unsure what size she actually wears these days. She hates it when I ask to help her with her hair, mostly because that means that I'll actually do something to it. She would rather just wear it down, uncombed generally. Unfortunately, her hair takes quite a bit of upkeep since it's so incredibly thick. If we don't really comb through it a couple of times a day, she has a bunch of pre-dreadlocks at her neck by bedtime. I keep telling her that thick hair is a blessing but she doesn't believe me for a second.
Today, her pre-teen, very fashion-conscious cousin came over and asked Haley to go shopping with her. Haley was thrilled at the chance to spend time with Emmy but returned without having bought anything. I wasn't in the least bit surprised.
I remember being her age, begging to go to the mall, asking for clothes for Christmas, looking through clothes catalogs - anything clothes. And I'm still very much that way. I don't buy that many clothes anymore, mostly out of lack of places to put them, but I still love clothes. Shoes. Purses. Jewelry. I'm very girly, that way. As are my 2 younger daughters. They both spend lots of time choosing outfits in the morning, choosing accessories and the perfect shoes for their outfit. Paige will often change her coat or backpack to match her outfit.
I'm not saying one is better than the other. In fact, Haley will probably make my life a lot easier when she's a teenager by not begging for the latest fashion or whatever. I just enjoy seeing the differences in each child. And for Haley, I love that her intense interest focuses on things other than fashion and appearance. I should learn a thing or two from her.